13 December 2012
Disccused Text: Levinas, "Love and Filiation," Ethics and Infinity
“There is continuity in discontinuity”. As I was listening to Dr. Garcia’s lecture last Thursday, it was these words that struck me the most. I remember as a kid growing up, my parents were subtly suggesting possible careers for me to take. There was always that pressure to conform since some parents want you to also follow their career paths. My father was always telling me when I was younger: “Why don’t you take business? I took that course in college, and you can make lots of money in business.” Although it’s very possible to earn a lot through that career, I wasn’t quite sure if I would enjoy business as much as he did.
When I was in 4th year high school, it took me several months and sleepless nights to decide what I wanted to take up here in the Ateneo. I finally realized that taking up AB Communications was the right choice because of the way it fits my personality and interests. It was clear, business just wasn’t for me. I don’t like numbers, graphs, or statistics, however; I do love money. I have nothing against business, but I believe it’s just not for me.
When I told my dad that I was going to take this course in college, I was expecting him to feel a little disappointed, but to my surprise he didn’t. He told me that “You’re old enough to decide on your life and that I will respect any decision you make”. In class, Doc G stated that “To be a father you must be able to recede at the background; you can’t always stay at the center”. My dad already acknowledged the fact that I am an adult now, and that he cannot tell me what to do with my life. He was also happy to know that I am unique and do excel in different aspects compared to him. I might not have become a businessman like him, but I will always be his son, and that aspect will never change.
I also learned that Levinas was just not talking about the biological relationships when he was discussing paternity or fraternity. It’s kind of like how people significantly fulfill these supposed roles of a father, mother, brother, sister, etc. This can be applied not only to our friends but to everyone we meet. An example would be whenever we go out on these outreach programs to the less fortunate, we listen to them, talk to them, interact with them, share our blessings, but most importantly share a special bond with them. We make them feel like family, we make them feel loved, and also part of the community. Doc G also stressed that: “We need to be able to reach out to the other who comes along our path”. Proximity is not merely about the blood relation between two people but rather, what we can do for the “other”.